how to convince yourself to stick to a diet



how to lose weight(weight loss and obesity)[subtitles using inown.org] hello everyone. in response to partner request i'm goingto do to this video on obesity and weight gain. now i'm going to start thisvideo with the truth. and the truth is there is a reasonthat you have excess weight. we like to use excuses in our society such as; i have aslow metabolism, i over eat, or it's about my genetics. but none of these conditions is what actuallycauses obesity and weight gain. weight gain is an external reflectionof a deep internal problem. the difficult truth which we must facewhen we're looking at weight loss is there is a reason that your body thinksthat it needs the weight that it has.

otherwise you wouldn't have it. so there's a reason that you think youneed the excess weight. the question you needto ask yourself is why do i need this weight? what is the positive intention for havingit? sit for a while with this question. let the answer surface. you might be surprisedwhat answer you receive. the only lasting way to release weight isto discover what need is underneath the reason that you have excess weight and to releasethat need so the need the longer exists.

the only way to releaseexcess weight is to discover and release the need that iscausing that excess weight. the root that is causing all of it. if you release that need the body will no longerput on weight because it has no use for it. in order to explain this i'm going toexplain an observation which i've made over the years helping people withobesity. everyone i've ever met this overweight or obese feelsa deep internal need for emotional protection. they ran away from and make excuses fortheir feelings. they live in a hold an internal world of insecurity and many of them haverun away from those feelings for so long they aren't even aware of them.

the number two reason for beingoverweight is chronic self-denial. this comes in the form of denying itself ofwhat, what truly wants and who won truly is. but more importantly the form ofdepriving oneself of what one desires. many people who are overweight do notfeel that they deserve of what they desire. their form of self-punishmentis deprival. they deny themselves what they need and want based on principle or belief andfeel such a sense of internal starvation and lack from that self denial. that their body responds by feeling as ifit must save because it will be denied. and what does the body save and store when it feelsas if it will be starved in the future? fat. here are some other causes forexcess weight and obesity.

feelings of insecurity self-rejection wanting to protect the bodyfrom someone or something attempting to fill avoidwith them feelings being stuffed down and not expressed. the feeling that you cannot expressthe truth of who you are. seeking love and fulfillment with being convincedthat it will not come from the outside. using food as a substitutefor affection. inability to admit to yourselfor others what you truly desire.

feeling a lack in an aspect of your life sogreat that you are trying to overcompensate. craving closeness and beloved / heldbut feeling as if you will not get it. so you have to simulate that feeling ofcloseness or being held tightly by a fat. putting up emotional armorso nothing gets in. suppressed anger and resentment and the desire for powerand bigness so someone isn't taken advantage of. look to release these underlying causesof weight gain and of obesity and your body will nolonger need the weight and everything else you do willjust be icing on the cake. people get different resultsfrom eating food

because people have a different vibrational set pointrelative to food and relative to their body. so i want to explain something that i'm seeing becausei'm able to see the world in a vibrational manner. when you watch someone and they take a bit of food and they putit to their lips and their idea that they have in their head their belief is that that food is goingto make them fatter, then it will. they have a love-haterelationship with food. so they will gain weight no matterwhat they eat or don't eat. however if you meet a person who puts the food to theirmouths and they are in an aspect of appreciation. they don't think that the food is making them fatits not even the thought that something their head. this person could probably eat three piecesof chocolate cake and be no different

in terms of physical appearance than theywere in the first place. it is your idea, your belief, relative to fatnessthat creates everything in this reality. if you believe the food willmake you fat and it will. if you do not believe the foodwill make you fat then it won't. so you see how we're stuck ina vibrational holding pattern. so believe me when i tell youthat metabolism has absolutely nothing to do with it. and the key tolosing weight is to find out how to release resistance to the thoughts that are holdingyou a vibrational match to that weight. it is very important to understand that you cannot eatfoods that you think will make you fat and get skinny.

you also can't think thoughts relative toyour body that you are fat and get skinny. that's a vibrationalcontradiction resist the weight and it will stay there. focus on all the things that don'twork all the things you've tried. focus on the fact you do haveand you will get more of it. resistance is the reason that mostdiet plans don't work well. you're not doing things from thestandpoint of allowing and joy. instead you're fightingagainst the fat. you put yourself on diets that don'tfeel good to do, they're hard to do.

you end up feeling as if you'redepriving yourself and so you're pointed in the opposite directionof joy and you simply can't maintain that. it nullifies the whole entireprerogative of weight loss. the only reason you want to lose weight is becauseyou think will make you happier to lose weight. so if what you're doing to loseweight makes you less happy. you're pulled in the opposite directionof weight loss and happiness. we may think that we're going aboutit the right way but we aren't. i promise you when it comes to weight loss that the harderyou try to lose the weight the worst everything will get. you will not be able to lose weightbecause that desperacy see you feel.

that desire which is so intense within you thatyou feel the acute lack of it, is resistance. and anything we resist persists. the issue with weight gain is that you want somethingthat you know you don't have. and the more you focus on howbad you wanted. the more aware you are of your positionrelative to that thing you want. which is how much youlack what you want. so if you really really want something thatyou are really really aware you don't have. you activate the side of the equationthat is more believable to you. in other words you activate the side ofthe equation which is already activated.

which is the lack of what you want. it is understandable you are standing inyour life looking at the proof which is the lack of what you wantin this case excess weight. and so you feed thatside of the equation. losing weight is all about releasing resistanceto the current weight which you have. it's about finding any way you canto fall in love with yourself. and right now you can't look in the mirrorand say wow i am absolutely gorgeous i'm the perfect weight. that would be lying to yourself becauseyou don't actually believe that.

but you can choose to focus on yourselfin terms of things you do believe which are on the way to totalself love of your body image. from there you can incrementally takes steps to go in thedirection of the body image which you really identify with the one you want to have. that this time it will come from space of wanting to allow yourselfto achieve a body image which you enjoy because you love yourself. not because you hate yourself. i'm going to reiterate that again. real weight loss, is weight loss which occurs becauseyou love yourself and you want yourself to feel good. it does not come from the space of hating yourselfand wanting yourself to be different.

i'm gonna reiterate it again that the entire realitywe live on is the byproduct of your thoughts. and so we said many times that you cannot makeup for an action what you lack and focus. however when it comes tosomething like your body you can use actions to help improveyour mentality vibrationally. what this means is you can pick smallactions every day which will cause you to vibrationally feel betterrelative to weight gain. and by doing that you willincrease your vibration. which will then lead you towardsmore inspired actions to take and those actions which you take towards weightloss will then increase your vibration.

and your mental set point relative to weight loss andso will snowball in the correct direction like so. there is a pain cycle that exists relativeto food and relative to gaining weight. it goes like this, you know you believe that somefood is gonna make you fat. but in the moment the need to feel that internalavoid filling up instead of existing there. the need to fill it up with somethingthat makes you feel less empty inside is more intense than yourdesire and your need to be skinny. so in the moment you have competingneeds and so you put it in your mouth and then you feel that sinking guilt. i understand this process and you're notin this process alone

that's the one thing which most peoplewho are overweight feel like. because if you're overweight and resistanceto it, you'll attract all kinds of skinny friends that can eat anything they want and you'll be convincedyou're the only one that feels this way. but i promise you, you aren't. there are manypeople on this planet that are stuck in the same cycle and in reality anybody who suffers from any kindof addiction is stuck in this cycle as well. so we're all in the spoke together. it's important to understand that when it comes to losing weightyou have to be motivated from the inside and not the outside. it's also important that you leaveeveryone else out of the equation. what that means is it doesn't matter what somebody didto lose weight or what diet they were on to lose weight.

when it comes to losing weightthere's only you and you. and your experience has nothing todo with anyone else's experience. so all you need to do is examine your beliefs relative tohow you think right now that you will lose or gain weight. and then going in the direction ofthat leave everyone else out of it. their experience has nothing to do withyours. so in terms of action here's the problem most people trying to lose weight theyget on very difficult diet routines very difficult exercise routines as if we're not even training we're just sending someonestraight to ever stand expecting them to summit.

this is not how it's going to work because you'redealing with an awful lot of resistance and if you have ever done a diet program or a difficult exercise programbefore you know that there's nothing that creates more resistance. than doing something which is currentlybeyond your means. you're gonna feel like you're punishing yourself you're going to feel likeyou're depriving yourself and so you will actually beintroducing more resistance. and so you can't stick with it. the human being goes in the direction ofwhat feels good. so anything that is too difficultto do you will not maintain.

you will not stick with it. this is why people yoyo and weights so much. when theytry new diet plans, when they say i've tried everything. the reason it keeps going back isbecause they have tried to do things that are too difficultfor where they currently are. so the way to go about weight loss isto take every day and set simple goals. 1 goal a day or two goalsa day that's it. anything you can managethat seems achievable. not something which is way out of sight notsomething like everest something very small. so for some people this might look liketoday i'm going to eat an apple.

everything else in my life might stay the same imight be eating the same foods throughout the day. i might not exercise all day long buti am adding an apple to my diet. now when they eat that apple theyhave some kind of achievement and that's going to feel good and so because they associated thataction with feeling good not bad for depriving themselves. then they will be motivated so play this game with yourself, each day i wantyou to set an achievable incremental goal. today it might look likewalking around the block. next week it might look likewalking around two blocks. if you keep doing these simple steps setting these achievable goalswhich keep you motivated to go in the direction of weight loss

because it feels good to you in the process of it and then the achievementof it and pretty soon your next goal will be a half marathon. pretty soon you will be standing in front of the mirror and you willbe looking at the exact image you want the world to see. what is the key to weight losswhen it comes to action? it is to do little, symbol, achievable, thingsthat you believe will help you lose weight. do not do things that feel likepunishment or self deprival. simply do the things you feelmotivated and excited to do. it doesn't matter whatyou do to lose weight. simply take the steps that you believewill help you loss weight. such as eliminating all meat from yourdiet.

eliminating dairy from your diet. adding vegetables to your diet. adding fruits to your diet. adding healthy fats to your diet. such as nuts and coconut oil. removing unhealthy fats from your diet suchas; lard, crisco, vegetable oil or butter. taking the stairs insteadof the elevator, spending time outdoors, doing it cleanse or taking up a sport.

when it comes to taking up a sport it's incrediblyimportant that you do something you enjoy to do. this is the bottom line when it comesto weight loss and exercise. if you don't enjoy exercise you willnot be exercising for very long. and it will feel like self-punishmentevery time you do it. so what i want you to do is i wantyou to find an activity you enjoy. don't make it about the exercise have the exercise just be happyside benefit of all of it. so maybe you might try tennisand really love tennis so the fact that you're exercising whenyou're doing tennis is just a bonus.

that's the kind of thing you want tolook for when it comes to exercise. otherwise you're going to be going at weight loss yet againand an exercise yet again from a standpoint of persistence instead of a stand point ofadding to your own joy. so i want to take a bit of time to tell you aboutthe difference between your body and your mind. and i promise it's only gonna takea second because it goes like this. there is no difference betweenyour body and your mind. your body is a direct reflectionof your mind. your reality is a direct reflectionof your beliefs. so if you can work around with your beliefs all to thethoughts you're thinking your body must follow suit.

we need to stop approaching weight lossin the way that we approach it now. you cannot spend your life being drivento action by what you do not want. so the moral of the story is stop strugglingagainst the weight you don't want. think any thought you can think without lying to yourself thathelps you to make peace with the weight you currently have and then work to transform theroot need for this weight. after that you can move towards the body image you desireby doing things that pull you in that direction. that feel good to do. that you're excited to do. that you believe will work.

so that when you do them you feelthe momentum of those actions. from there are things easy you can let the actions makeyou feel better and feeling better will inspire you towards better action and soon and so forth until one day and you may not even realize it your body willbe the embodiment of your desire for it. stop evaluating yourself according to the opinionsand perspectives and ideals of others. most of us do this so i understandit's a bit of a tall order. but most of us spend our lives comparing ourselvesto the perspectives of other people. other people who have photoshop. as you can understand that'sincredibly self hating

and you can't lose weight froman aspect of self-hate. you can't hate the fat and get rid of that fat becauseyou're resisting it and whatever you resist persists. it's my desire that you understand that thebody that you're in is absolutely perfect. there's nothing about it which needs tochange.

how to convince yourself to stick to a diet,but at the same time you deserve to have whateverbody image, you desire to have in this life. and there is nothing preventingyou from it. have a good day. subtitles by the amara.org community